Wow! What a crazy ride this is! We definitely were not expecting such emotions and were overwhelmed. Esp the 1st day that we met AV. The moment they brought him in the room in the caregivers arms, I don't know what I felt. I think fear, worry were the first. Was he ok, was something wrong, oh he's cute, but why is he so thin....why isnt he looking at anything in particular and sooo many other questions played soccer in our mind. After a few secs of him entering the room and us standing up and watching him I took him in my arms gently and sat down - about 5 people observing the moment. I tried to engage him, say Hi and smile and laugh and he looked at me, shy and quiet but not showing how scared he may have been. Then Deepak came and sat beside us and talked to him in Russian saying endearing things finally ending in a little tickle. Thats when the giggles started. :D and the rest as they say...is History. ok History of 3 days, but History for sure.
The 1st meeting was supposed to be just a 15 min introduction but they let us continue our interaction for about 45 mns I think. Because it was going so well. He was interacting, playing with the toys we tried to engage him with and even though he wasnt walking or talking, he had this way of sitting and crawling/dragging up to the thing he wanted. We put a ring over his legs one at a time to see what he does and he gently pulled it out of where it was stuck, repeating that a few times, including when we put it on like huge bangles. He kicked around the stacking rings (their own toy since in my anxiety I left my own bag in the Director's office - the one that had the bag of toys. So much for planning! ;)
That first day was rough on us all. Once both us couples came out of the BH, we were quiet and then made a few jokes about needing a drink or two. Its great that we are here together, with K&J. Talking about our day's experience, our worries and concerns etc helped I think. We had drinks at a restaurant called The Hunt in Russian (Thank God for Deepak!) since whatever food on the menu we asked for-Lagman or Shaslik, were not available. Then we walked up to the restaurant that reminded us of a Ruby's Tuesday on a smaller scale perhaps, and had lunch there. The food was ok, though the 'club sandwich' was something like what my little sis may have made for me in a rush when she was 10, just to get the bribe I may have offered her at the time. ;) But this downtime together was much needed I think. The rest of the evening & night was spent
talking to family, seeing the video we made of the whole meeting, researching the medical issues and other stuff. To say we were mentally exhausted is an understatement. ANd we could get those giggles out of our mind. He def had us at the first one! And when he had left the room, I quickly grabbed his hand for a pic-and he held onto my fingers as if to reassure me and say, "Why are you so worried? I can do this, with your help, trust me. Its going to be alright."
The 1st meeting was supposed to be just a 15 min introduction but they let us continue our interaction for about 45 mns I think. Because it was going so well. He was interacting, playing with the toys we tried to engage him with and even though he wasnt walking or talking, he had this way of sitting and crawling/dragging up to the thing he wanted. We put a ring over his legs one at a time to see what he does and he gently pulled it out of where it was stuck, repeating that a few times, including when we put it on like huge bangles. He kicked around the stacking rings (their own toy since in my anxiety I left my own bag in the Director's office - the one that had the bag of toys. So much for planning! ;)
That first day was rough on us all. Once both us couples came out of the BH, we were quiet and then made a few jokes about needing a drink or two. Its great that we are here together, with K&J. Talking about our day's experience, our worries and concerns etc helped I think. We had drinks at a restaurant called The Hunt in Russian (Thank God for Deepak!) since whatever food on the menu we asked for-Lagman or Shaslik, were not available. Then we walked up to the restaurant that reminded us of a Ruby's Tuesday on a smaller scale perhaps, and had lunch there. The food was ok, though the 'club sandwich' was something like what my little sis may have made for me in a rush when she was 10, just to get the bribe I may have offered her at the time. ;) But this downtime together was much needed I think. The rest of the evening & night was spent
talking to family, seeing the video we made of the whole meeting, researching the medical issues and other stuff. To say we were mentally exhausted is an understatement. ANd we could get those giggles out of our mind. He def had us at the first one! And when he had left the room, I quickly grabbed his hand for a pic-and he held onto my fingers as if to reassure me and say, "Why are you so worried? I can do this, with your help, trust me. Its going to be alright."
You are so cute all of you. It should get better and better and better....
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We try ;)
ReplyDeleteYes, we think so too. just in 2 days the difference is amazing. I so wish I could share his picture and videos. but will as soon as court is done. Till then the teaser pics will continue with the commentary :)